Teaching Children/Youth Coping Skills
for Stress Management
By
Gloria S. Elder,MA

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"Your Body Changes with Stress."

Within this lesson children are

taught to name and demonstrate

body change. For example, the

teacher introduces the "sad"

feeling and says,"When you are sad

you might cry and your eyes get red

and swollen and you make a frown.

Teacher demonstrates body changes

for children to see, then children

imitate the sad feeling. They learn

that body changes are called stress.

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"Deep Breathing and Relaxation."


The children participate in exercises to relax

their bodies through deep breathing,muscle

relaxation, and imagery relaxation. Numerous

breathing exercises are supplemented with art,

science, and manipulative activities, as well as

dramatic plays, which have children involved in

role playing and deep breathing when they are

sad, mad, scared, and happy.

The Muscle relaxation techniques are similar

to those you may have read about for adults,

but they are well-explained and demonstrated

to children. Fun muscle/tension games are

included. With a Great deal of discussion and

involvement, children learn positive image

relaxation. It is very important to equip

children with skills that help them become

adequately prepared to handle the stress in

their lives effectively and to improve their

decision-making and problem solving skills.

The Pre-School Stress Relief Project is

designed to teach childen coping skills

early to equip them to deal with life's

stressful events in a healthy manner that

leads to wellness in our society. Primary

prevention is defined as lowering the

incidence of emotional disorder by reducing

stress and promoting conditons that increase

confidence and coping skills (Albee and

Gullotta, 1992) Stress cannot be taught to

show one how to positively deal with it.

Young children cope with many things. It

can be excitement of going to a birthday

party or recieving a new puppy. Or it can

be coping with family separations or the

anger of trying to accept a new baby to the

home. All of these are examples of situations

which may be stressful. That stress can be

positive or negative. It can be the "spice of

life" or it can be associated with life's

pressures and tensions. Both good and bad

stress can cause one's body to respond to

change.

Parents can help children learn to cope

with stressful situations such as

these by preparing the child for

change whenever possible. This will give the

child time to adjust. Children are sensitive

and may sense that changes are occurring and

worry even more if they are not properly

informed and prepared for change. Remember

that children are resilient; they can bounce

back and handle situations a lot better than

we give them credit for.Be honest with the

child about what is going on. When explaining

stressful situation to the child,(continued...)
always be truthful. Provide the child with

extra security before potentially stressful

situations.


Teachers see children handling stress in

different ways. Two children may respond to

a classroom visit from Smokey the Bear

(person dressed up in a bear costume) in two

distinct ways. One may be fascinated, the

other terrified. Within this situation, the first

child might show outward emotions by a

smiling face or by jumping up and down with

excitement, while the second may withdraw

and show signs of fearfulness or nail biting.

Teachers can help children to cope with

happy and scared emotions by talking with

children about their feelings and concerns.

Allow children to express their own

feelings as you listen with an open

mind. Let them know that you are

concerned about their feelings.



In today's fast-paced society children are

faced with more stressors than ever before.

They must cope with increased rates of

divorced, child neglect, negative community

environmental conditions and substance

abuse. When stress is over- whelming,

children seek relief. One child may act out

negatively while another may turn inward.

Stress and the inability to effectively manage

it can lead to alcohol and other drug abuse.

There is a relationship between stressful

conditions and substance abuse, and alcohol

and other drug use are learned responses to

stress. Therefore, it is very important to

equip children early with skills that help

them to effectively cope with the stress in

their lives. The results of the lack of positive

coping skills for children/youth can

carry over to later years, where statistics

indicate a sharp rise in substance abuse,

crime, violent acts and suicide.

Parents and teachers can help children to

express anger positively. Children have a

right to feel angry or upset. Allow them the

opportunity to express their feelings. Teach

positive ways to release anger. They can

punch a pillow (teaches children to punch

soft things that does not hurt themselves or

others), count to 10, talk to someone about

angry feelings, go for a walk, or take time

out to rest and realx. Positive anger

releases gives the child time to accept

his/her anger and not hurt themselves and

others in the process.